Did you know this terrible nightmare affects more women than most of us realize? According to a study, 1 in 5 women globally have been sexually assaulted. (And this statistic represents the reported cases. Most cases go unreported meaning this statistic may be even more frequent.)
1 in 5.
But what can we do? These past few years I learnt this incredible truth: one person who stands up for what is right can truly change eternity.
So today, I am taking a stand in this open letter to anyone who has lived this nightmare.
YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN, YOU ARE NOT DAMAGED, YOU ARE LOVED.
And this is for you: An Open Letter to Anyone Who Has Been Sexually Assaulted
Words cannot express how much my heart hurts for you and the terror you have been through. The truth is, I don’t know how to write this letter or what to say, only that is must be written for there are unspoken words you need to hear. Starting with this:
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
You were created in the image of a perfect God – his final creation and his masterpiece. You are the most incredible thing He ever made and there is nothing anyone could ever do to take that away from you.
First and foremost, you are His. God loves you even when you can’t feel his love around you.
You are not loved for your looks or your talents.
You are not loved for what you can give Him.
You are deeply loved just for being you.
I know it might seem like that suffering will never go away. Perhaps there are days when you’d rather just give up. Maybe you have deeper struggles than anyone knows. That voice, my friend, the one telling you the pain you have experienced is deserved, that somehow you could have prevented what happened – is a LIE.
NOTHING you did is to blame for what happened to you.
NONE of the pain you’ve felt is your fault.
You are BLAMELESS no matter what the worst voices say.
No, you are not damaged.
No, you are not broken.
No, you are not hopeless.
For God can and will redeem every single part of your story.
Yeah, it might seem impossible today – like healing will never happen, but please know that there are people here for you to support you in any way that we can. We are here to pick you up, dust you off, and protect you from the worst this world has to offer.
Your story is NOT defined by a terrible moment.
Your story is defined by God and what He has to say about you.
And the rest of that incredible story is waiting for you.
YOU’RE NOT WORTHLESS.
YOU’RE NOT UNLOVABLE.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
YOU ARE BLAMELESS.
YOU ARE LOVED.
Let’s keep in touch on 08039492291, tace_ss
His Happy Place By Aisha Lawal
Kayode lay stretched out on a mat woven intricately with colourful plastic strands. The night was quiet yet alive with a melody only of its own. He stared at the star-filled sky and smiled. For some reason, he had never been able to appreciate the true beauty of the stars in the city. They always appeared sparse and dim, but here, in this little town, filled more with vegetation than man, he was mesmerised.
He hadn’t known in what shape he had been until he had been forced to come home when universities closed due to the coronavirus outbreak. He was in his final year in medical school, had only a few weeks to his last professional exam, had been running on pure tension, so close to breaking and hadn’t realised this. Until he arrived home. Greeted by his mother’s comforting hug, his father’s light tap on the shoulder and his siblings’ excited chatter. An unbearable weight had lifted off his chest, his tensed shoulders loosening. He had taken a deep breath, the first in years.
He hadn’t been home in half a dozen years, for he lived in Kano and schooled in Lagos. His Yoruba father had married his Hausa mother and settled in the north. His parents couldn’t afford travel by air and he hadn’t ever gotten one-week straight holiday from school.
One reading this might think that Kayode hated his course of study, but that was not particularly true. He loved medicine but he hadn’t been able to enjoy it as much. The air in the teaching hospital where he studied had been stifling, the curriculum overbearing and Lagos itself had been so full of people and cars. All of this he could have borne with, if not for the deep ache in his heart. He simply missed his family.
His twin baby brothers, Kolani and Tolani who had been 6 when he had left were now 12 and not as chubby. The sweet innocence that had accompanied them as children were still present but tempered now by an awareness. Bukola, his younger sister had been in primary school when he left. She rounded up her WAEC exams just before the pandemic struck. “The girl has grown into a woman” was her phrase anytime they had a conversation about the years gone by.
Kayode closed his eyes and traced patterns on the mat with the tip of his fingers. He had been at home for two months. The headache that had plagued him the past few months had disappeared and his nights filled with restful sleep. He will have to go back, he found that he was not averse to the idea, he missed school. If there was one thing though that Kayode was sure of; he was coming back home right after his exams. His home was his happy place.
By Aisha Lawal M. (nana_ai)
Poem: The Odd
They call me abnormal
Because of my insignificance
They said I’m Alu-jonu (spirit)
Because of my physical impairment
I’ve been totally stigmatized
Because of what they call an unknown terrible illness
They call me abirun (imbecile)
All because of my dysfunctionality
They’ve tagged me all sorts of names
Because of the way I behave
They have concluded that I amount to nothing
Some even call me cause trouble
They see me as nothing but sorrow
Elders despised me
They hated me like faeces
Children have also been trained
To throw spits at me
I’m nothing but a friend of none
An an enemy of all
Come to think of it
What is meant to be normal?
Is it a way of life or a pride?
Does it worth an attitude to imbibe?
But only if humans could see
Beyond the physical
That though I may be abnormal
But I’M ABOVE THE NORMALS
If only the world would know
That I’m just a being
Wrapped in an enigma
For the manifestation of the Most High.
Dedicated to all physically, and mentality impaired people out there. This is just to help them know that there’s always light at the end of the tunnel and no one is dispensable, everyone is special in their own way. Let’s embrace them whole heartedly because what most of them need is a shoulder to lean on, a heart that cares for them, a smile to awake the giant in them and a little strength to make their eagles fly.
Poem: Man Walks
Like in his life he has never crawled
With his head held high
Looking down his nose, in pride
He has in his pocket some riches
But not as much as the sand in the beaches
He gives in some cases
To hear the song of his praises
He thinks himself self-sufficient
But when drought comes, he is left thirsty and inefficient
He forgets his lord when he builds his ship
Yet, when the storm comes at sea, he prays in sincere worship
Man wishes to live forever
What is death, if not certain for whoever?
Why then does man strut arrogantly
When even the sun and the moon bow to their Lord in humility.
By: nana_ai (Lawal Aisha M.)